Included with a brand new Lenovo notebook (a ThinkPad R60 to be precise) is a yellow leaflet offering the latest and greatest software at a very low price. Lotus SmartSuite Millennium Edition at EUR 15.90 and Lotus Notes R5 at an unbeatable EUR 15.90. Hello?!? Did I hear you right? Millennium edition? Release five?!?
The order can be placed at http://ibm.modusmedia.co.uk/lotus which appears to be kept nicely up to date:

Unbelievable. Me wonders how many requests they get for those packages…
Thanks, Simon.
Update:
this works, but gives a number of ugly errors:
Microsoft OLE DB Provider for ODBC Drivers error '80004005'
[Microsoft][ODBC Microsoft Access Driver] Operation must use an updateable query.
/lotus/secure/GenOrdRef.asp, line 50
After solving the issues with the duplicates in my SyncML setup, I added another synchronization node to the picture ∗.

I've actually had that in there all the time, but I didn't want to complicate the issue by mentioning it.
The original setup hasn't really changed, but instead of altering contacts on Lotus Notes, I do so in AddressBook on the Mac.

It works, and I am now really happy. I've been hammering deletes, updates and inserts to all sides of this party, and I've yet to find a problem.

∗ Until the next fubar happens with my setup.
Two newlyweds were in their honeymoon suite on their wedding night. As they were undressing for bed, the husband—who was a big burly man—tossed his trousers to his bride and said, "Here, put these on." She put them on and the waist was twice the size of her body.
"I can't wear your trousers," she said.
"That's right,'' said the husband, "and don't you ever forget it. I'm the man who wears the pants in this family."
With that she flipped him her panties and said, "Try these on."
He tried them on and found he could only get them on as far as his kneecaps. "Hell," he said. ''I can't get into your panties!"
She replied, "That's right, and that's the way it's going to stay until your attitude changes."
Reminds me of something….
"Meine Damen un Herren, die Sitzplatz Reservierungen konnten nicht beschiildert werden weil die Diskette defekt ist. Wir bitten um Ihr Verstaendnis.."
Hallo?!? Diskette?!? Was ist das?
Look at this idiot; he spams me and apologizes for it.

An apology on the top and the bottom of the list of links. Idiot.